Max de Winters=rude

I'm going to start off by saying that for now, I am not a big fan of Max de Winters. Maybe he will shape up later on and not be such a jerk, but for now, he is the biggest jerk and I dislike his character. He is very rude. The whole marriage proposal thing was just so bizarre. First of all, I was not even thinking about the fact that they had the possibility of getting married, and honestly if I were the narrator I would have sticked with Mrs. Van Hopper. Sure, she's annoying and obnoxious too, but at least she is not trying to replace someone with you, like Max de Winters is. He is trying to fill in the space of Rebecca in Manderley, but in a bad way. He is almost asking the narrator to marry him to be his servant and please him, but not be too much like Rebecca because that brings back bad memories, and that is just no okay. He even says "instead of of being companion to Mrs. Van Hopper you become mine, and your duties will be almost exactly the same"(54). Like excuse you.  He was also a raging jerk during his proposal. He insulted her and said she is "as ignorant as Mrs. Van Hopper, and just as unintelligent" (53). Who would want to marry someone after that?
(and I realize this post is really long, I just needed to get this off my chest)